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The game of life is a game of boomerangs. Our thoughts, deeds and words return to us sooner or later with astounding accuracy.

-Florence Scovel Shinn

I’m a believer in keeping a positive mental attitude to get through life. I believe a positive attitude can help one achieve many things and help you reach seemingly unattainable goals. It sure beats being negative and miserable when confronted with an issue or problem. That only makes the problem seem worse, in my opinion.

Because of this, some friends and acquaintances have pinned me as one of those “Anyone Can Do Anything They Want” positive attitude shiny happy people. You know the type. Like the stereotypical motivational speaker who says things like”Hey, you want to be the richest man in the world? Well, if you believe, you can achieve.” Or “If you want to be a superstar athlete? Well, if you believe, you can achieve.”

Don’t get me wrong, I am a fan of many of these motivational speakers. They have a wealth of wisdom that have helped many people with their lives. And I love a lot of their quotes and philosophies. But I don’t really follow their way of thought 100%. I don’t believe a positive attitude ALONE is enough to reach your goals.

See, some of these motivational speakers for example will tell you that anyone can just have any dream they want and if they try hard enough, and believe enough, they WILL achieve it. For example, you can take Joe Blow off the street and because he wants to be an NBA basketball center so bad-it’s going to come true. Well, in my opinion, the first thing you have to ask is “Does he have the skills and does he have what it takes physically (is he the right person)?”

See, I don’t consider myself a pessimist, optimist, or even a realist. I consider myself an opportunist. I believe in odds. The harder (and smarter) you work, the more skill sets you gain, the more skill sets you gain, the more positions for opportunities you gain, the more positions for opportunities you gain, the more the odds for success are in your favor. It’s all about odds to me. And I’m all about putting the odds in my favor. This is why I’ve never had a problem with working hard, I see it as ultimately a numbers game.

So going back to the pro basketball center analogy,  if I dreamed of being an NBA pro basketball center, it more than likely wouldn’t happen. For one, I don’t have the skills. And two, I’m only 5’5. So even if I trained for years and got good at basketball and got the skills, I still don’t have the physical size for the position (Shaquille O’Neal is a basketball center for example at over 7 ft. tall). For the optimists who don’t completely agree with me, even you have to admit that the odds wouldn’t be in my favor.

So I believe in trying to achieve your dream, you have to take a serious inventory of yourself and see if you’re a fit for the role or you have the talent. And if you don’t have the natural talent, is it learn-able? Because unfortunately some things aren’t. It’s best to be realistic about these things. It’s just the way life is, some people fit into certain roles better than others.

So to my friends, no, I’m not one of these “Anyone Can Do Anything They Want” Guys. I’m more the “You Have To Be The Right Person, At The Right Place, At The Right Time” Guys.

Now go get it.

-Roz Abellera

“You will never have a greater or lesser dominion than that over yourself…the height of a man’s success is gauged by his self-mastery; the depth of his failure by his self-abandonment. …And this law is the expression of eternal justice. He who cannot establish dominion over himself will have no dominion over others.”

-Leonardo da Vinci

“Life isn’t fair.”

This is what someone recently said to me. You’ve probably heard this saying a million times. You can either accept it or deny it. Me, I choose to accept it because I feel it makes me deal with life easier. But I’ve always been one of those people who likes to call out things as they truly are and not look at things through rose colored glasses. I’d rather deal with with a brutal truth than a comfortable lie. That’s just me.

But it’s true, life really isn’t fair. Based on your perspective, some would say I’m luckier than others or unlucky -depending on who you talk to. Some of us were born closer to the finish line than others. I recognize that. Whether this means you’re richer, taller, prettier, etc. etc. That’s just the way it is. You really have no control, good or bad, how you were brought in or brought up in this world. We really have no say about where we started from.

Some people like to sulk in misery because they feel like life dealt them a bad hand. I can understand why they feel this way because I see that some people really do have a hard life. I can sympathize with that. But what I say to that is: FIGHT. Fight hard with your will and determination to improve yourself and your situation. I know it’s easier said than done BUT it can be done, I’ve seen people do it.

This is the part of your life that you DO have control over. Self improvement. I’m a firm believer in this. Whatever your lot in life is right now, whether you’re ahead or behind, you can take the steps to become better. It just takes discipline and will. You have to play with the cards you were dealt.

So whatever your short or long term goal may be to make your life better; whether you want to lose weight, quit smoking, make more money, whatever it may be- just get started. YOU have to be the one to take that first step.

Yeah, life isn’t fair but so what?  I refuse to just lay down and die.

-Roz

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