Posts Tagged ‘success’


I’m a believer in keeping a positive mental attitude to get through life. I believe a positive attitude can help one achieve many things and help you reach seemingly unattainable goals. It sure beats being negative and miserable when confronted with an issue or problem. That only makes the problem seem worse, in my opinion.

Because of this, some friends and acquaintances have pinned me as one of those “Anyone Can Do Anything They Want” positive attitude shiny happy people. You know the type. Like the stereotypical motivational speaker who says things like”Hey, you want to be the richest man in the world? Well, if you believe, you can achieve.” Or “If you want to be a superstar athlete? Well, if you believe, you can achieve.”

Don’t get me wrong, I am a fan of many of these motivational speakers. They have a wealth of wisdom that have helped many people with their lives. And I love a lot of their quotes and philosophies. But I don’t really follow their way of thought 100%. I don’t believe a positive attitude ALONE is enough to reach your goals.

See, some of these motivational speakers for example will tell you that anyone can just have any dream they want and if they try hard enough, and believe enough, they WILL achieve it. For example, you can take Joe Blow off the street and because he wants to be an NBA basketball center so bad-it’s going to come true. Well, in my opinion, the first thing you have to ask is “Does he have the skills and does he have what it takes physically (is he the right person)?”

See, I don’t consider myself a pessimist, optimist, or even a realist. I consider myself an opportunist. I believe in odds. The harder (and smarter) you work, the more skill sets you gain, the more skill sets you gain, the more positions for opportunities you gain, the more positions for opportunities you gain, the more the odds for success are in your favor. It’s all about odds to me. And I’m all about putting the odds in my favor. This is why I’ve never had a problem with working hard, I see it as ultimately a numbers game.

So going back to the pro basketball center analogy,  if I dreamed of being an NBA pro basketball center, it more than likely wouldn’t happen. For one, I don’t have the skills. And two, I’m only 5’5. So even if I trained for years and got good at basketball and got the skills, I still don’t have the physical size for the position (Shaquille O’Neal is a basketball center for example at over 7 ft. tall). For the optimists who don’t completely agree with me, even you have to admit that the odds wouldn’t be in my favor.

So I believe in trying to achieve your dream, you have to take a serious inventory of yourself and see if you’re a fit for the role or you have the talent. And if you don’t have the natural talent, is it learn-able? Because unfortunately some things aren’t. It’s best to be realistic about these things. It’s just the way life is, some people fit into certain roles better than others.

So to my friends, no, I’m not one of these “Anyone Can Do Anything They Want” Guys. I’m more the “You Have To Be The Right Person, At The Right Place, At The Right Time” Guys.

Now go get it.

-Roz Abellera




In life, I’m not interested in competing or trying to be better than anyone. I only strive to create and become the best version of myself.

Become a better version of yourself.

-Roz Abellera

If you do not have persistence then no amount of education, talent or genius can make up for it.

-Stephen Richards


“I haven’t failed, I have had great success, finding 9,999 ways that do not work”–Thomas Edison

Legend has it that Thomas Edison tried and failed 9,999 times to create the light bulb. What if he would have stopped before his 10,000th attempt?

Never quit.



Sometimes in life we try to reach a goal and things don’t go as we hoped and planned. It happens because life is a gamble. Life isn’t fair and there are no guarantees. There is a always a 50/50 chance of either success or failure.

I have seen people crushed by their failures, never to try at it again. They basically gave up on their dream and any hopes related to that dream. But than I’ve seen others where failing lit a fire inside of them and they became better than they were because of it. The legendary boxer Larry Holmes is a great example of this.

Legend has it that when Larry Holmes was an amateur trying out for the Olympics, he was so afraid of his opponent Duane Bobick, that he got disqualified in their match for excessive holding. It was rumored that he also crawled out of the ring in fear like a dog with his tail between his legs. He was branded as a “coward” by the boxing community after that.  This devastating failure could have crushed Larry and he could have quit right then and there on his hopes of becoming a pro boxer and champion like so many would have. But Larry was something different.

The reputation as a coward lit a fire under his ass and he started training like a madman possessed. The pain and humiliation was something he never wanted to ever feel again.

Now we all know what happened to Larry Holmes. He went on to become one of the greatest Heavyweight champions of all time, beating Ali and having the 3rd longest title reign of 7 years in Heavyweight boxing history. So failure is what he needed. Meanwhile, who is Duane Bobick?

So although life is a 50/50 gamble, it’s worth it to take your chance at it. It’s better than the alternative. Failure doesn’t have to stop you in your tracks.  Life isn’t over because of a temporary setback. Get up and dust yourself off.

So are you going to be the kind of person who let’s failure crush you? Or are you going to let failure wake up the sleeping giant inside of you? Your choice.

-Roz Abellera