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“You can’t connect the dots looking forward; you can only connect them looking backwards. So you have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future. You have to trust in something – your gut, destiny, life, karma, whatever. This approach has never let me down, and it has made all the difference in my life.”

-Steve Jobs


self discipline

Besides skill and talent, self discipline and self mastery are the keys to achieving your goals. Although, sometimes it’s easier said than done because life can be chaotic at times. You have to find that center in yourself, that inner will, and stay centered within the storm (the things going on around you in life). It’s something I’ve worked on for years and you get better with practice. It’s a mental thing.

For example, if you are a writer or artist, no matter how much you enjoy your craft, there are some days you just don’t feel like writing or doing art. Maybe you had a bad day at work and you just want to go home and veg out in front of the TV. This is what your feelings and impulses want you to do. However, you can will yourself to write or do art for an hour a day. Day by day, working on your goal. If you do this daily, this is self discipline. Soon it becomes a habit and that habit turns into self mastery. Your negative impulses will no longer control you and will be replaced by positive impulses-where you’d rather work on your goal than waste time being a couch potato.

This is the way great projects and works are done. Working day by day, little by little, chipping away at the stone. You can’t just sit around to wait until you’re inspired. This just wouldn’t be productive because you’re not inspired every second of every hour. Usually, inspiration will find you as you are already working.

But the key is to listen to that inner voice no matter what outside influences are distracting you. Stay centered. This is the way to self-discipline and self mastery.

-Roz Abellera




“Life isn’t fair.”

This is what someone recently said to me. You’ve probably heard this saying a million times. You can either accept it or deny it. Me, I choose to accept it because I feel it makes me deal with life easier. But I’ve always been one of those people who likes to call out things as they truly are and not look at things through rose colored glasses. I’d rather deal with with a brutal truth than a comfortable lie. That’s just me.

But it’s true, life really isn’t fair. Based on your perspective, some would say I’m luckier than others or unlucky -depending on who you talk to. Some of us were born closer to the finish line than others. I recognize that. Whether this means you’re richer, taller, prettier, etc. etc. That’s just the way it is. You really have no control, good or bad, how you were brought in or brought up in this world. We really have no say about where we started from.

Some people like to sulk in misery because they feel like life dealt them a bad hand. I can understand why they feel this way because I see that some people really do have a hard life. I can sympathize with that. But what I say to that is: FIGHT. Fight hard with your will and determination to improve yourself and your situation. I know it’s easier said than done BUT it can be done, I’ve seen people do it.

This is the part of your life that you DO have control over. Self improvement. I’m a firm believer in this. Whatever your lot in life is right now, whether you’re ahead or behind, you can take the steps to become better. It just takes discipline and will. You have to play with the cards you were dealt.

So whatever your short or long term goal may be to make your life better; whether you want to lose weight, quit smoking, make more money, whatever it may be- just get started. YOU have to be the one to take that first step.

Yeah, life isn’t fair but so what?  I refuse to just lay down and die.